Stalking is a form of harassment and involves a fixation and repeated or unwanted behaviour that makes a person feel distressed or scared. Behaviour is varied but can include being followed, repeated messages on social media, being sent unwanted gifts or threats of violence. Threats may not be made but victims may feel scared by the unwanted attention of the perpetrator. Even if no threats are made it is still stalking and is a crime.
“You carry it all the time. You carry it and it’s with you day in day out. Day in day out. And you breathe it, and … it’s in the back of your mind all the time, ‘What is he going to do? What are we going to find … who’s going to come knocking at our door?” – Stalking Victim
On its own each incident may not seem significant enough to report, and you may feel like you won’t be taken seriously – but this isn’t the case. If the attention you are receiving is unwelcome and is making you feel scared or intimidated then you should report this and we will listen to you.
“Fortunately after I called the police things did get better. Stalking and harassment is distressing and makes you feel isolated and fearful. Do not feel ashamed or embarrassed as I did, it is not a reflection on you.” – Stalking Victim
If you don’t want to report your situation to the police, then there are a number of stalking charities that you can get in touch with and they all have great websites where you can seek guidance. We’ve listed these for you below.
TIP – keep a diary of what is happening to you. Every time you receive unwanted communication, be it a text message, social media contact, email, letter, present – anything, then note this down along with the date and time.
Also make a note of any details you have about the person who is stalking/harassing you. This could include information about where they live or work, their vehicle’s number plate, online names or personas, or nicknames, and numbers that are used to contact you. Keep any gifts or items you are sent or any other evidence of the stalker’s behaviour.
Never arrange to meet your stalker or try to resolve things on your own. If you need help contact police on 101 or 999 in an emergency.
“Keep a log – I did this for many years…as you do not realise how wrong the behaviour is or where the patterns are until you start writing it down. It is also a really good way of demonstrating to others the intensity and details of the incidents as it is easy to mix them up and forget how they made you feel. “ – Stalking Victim